Aruna is 40 years old. She has a happy family. Her husband works in a private company and he earns well. Her son is 8 years old. If you ask her neighbors they will say “happy couple”. Happy? Aruna smiles. She really does’t remember when is the last time she has laughed her heart out with her husband. Her pillow knows the meaning of her happiness and the bed knows the difference between moan and a pain.
He returns from office everyday at late night. First he opens his bottle of single malt after returning home then says good night to his son and switches off the light of his room. Aruna makes his dinner ready, he finishes off his drink and comes to the dinner table. They eat together in silence. After dinner again drink, his eyes become red and he enters the bed room, switch off the light and close the door. Then?? Yes a “happy couple” indeed.
He never asked how is Aruna? He never wants to know how was her day? All he wants is some pleasure and he thinks it is the happy sex life. He is not raping her, she is his wife so it becomes her duty to present her body every night without any concern. Aruna never knew that a paper where they signed as husband and wife will make her life so painful.
NCRB report says that domestic violence in India is the largest crime against women. More than 118,000 cases of domestic violence was reported in 2013. The report also says within 10 years the number has shot up from 50,703.
We are talking everywhere about women rights, we are saying feminism is needed, we are talking about individual choice of clothes. But why are we not talking much about marital rape? Do we think that marriage makes, sex private and it becomes a private affair? Are not we very orthodox about marriage?
I ask these questions to myself. You can protest, you can scream, you can slap but think of those thousand women who can’t scream because she is married and she has family which will breakdown in her absence. She is compromising her life, her time, her hobbies and her choices.